This week’s
guest blog is written by Neale Taylor from the “Mariel Cove” writing team.
Neale has been fascinated with psychology, drama and women since she was
fourteen years old. She enjoys swimming, is a Pinterest addict and avid MMORPG
gamer. Neale lives with her daughter in California .
She writes the characters Tal, Madison, Aidan and Mikayla.
When the we were
assigned our characters for Mariel Cove, we were given basic facts: occupation,
age, ethnicity. We were then charged with the task of turning those facts into
real, identifiable, three-dimensional people. I started making lists of my
characters’ info: Name, eye color, hair color, height, build, sexual
orientation…
Wait. What?
Isn’t this a lesbian series? Why wouldn’t all of the characters be lesbian?
There were some
things about my characters that I knew immediately: Tal had just lost her
grandfather. Aidan was a bartender, keeping her turbulent past from almost
everyone. Madison
was a mother.
That brought up
a question for me: How had Madison
come to have her two boys? Had she used a fertility clinic? Had she used the
proverbial turkey baster? In a day and age when lesbian moms are everywhere—the
PTA , the grocery store, even ABC
Family—I wanted Madison’s story to be authentic. I wanted her story to be
something that I knew. I wanted her story to be more complicated and messy,
because sexual orientation can be very complicated and messy.
I decided that
she was bisexual. She had been married to a man very young, had become pregnant
and abandoned by the man she had loved. Instead of “scorned woman turns her
back on men” I wanted “scorned woman grows and matures but stays true to
herself.” Because one person, man or woman or a thousand variations in between,
doesn’t—and shouldn’t—change who you are.
And after seeing
bisexual characters in the media be the brunt of every joke, I wanted to take
the challenge of writing one who was a real person, who wasn’t some sort of
comic relief. Bisexual people, and characters, are told to “pick a side” or
“make up your mind.” Why would we ostracize part of our LGBTQ family?
One of the only
bisexual characters in the L Word, Alice, makes this comment to Dana as she’s
dying in the hospital: “You’re right. Bisexuality is gross.” This is one of
more than a handful of biphobic comments and punchlines in the series. Tina—the
other main bisexual character—even denies being bisexual as she’s dating Henry.
“I still identify as a lesbian.” And then a moment later, “Actually, I think of
lesbian as a political identity, to tell you the truth.”
In Glee, the
only bisexual identified character, Brittany ,
enforces one of the other biphobic stereotypes: Bisexuals are
sluts/promiscuous. In one episode, Brittany
gives gay male Kurt the opportunity to “tap this” so that she can have a perfect record
of making out with everyone at McKinley High.
Now, keep in
mind here, I’m trying to make a point. I’m not saying that Brittany is a slut, nor am I saying that if
you have a lot of sex or kiss a lot are you a slut. I’m making a point that
another major, influential TV show is perpetuating, so don’t get your panties
(briefs, thongs or boxers) in a bunch :)
What does this
lead to? For me, it has me rarely identifying to others as anything other than
lesbian… Even though I’ve had relationships with men, which I won’t disqualify
because they happened before I came “out.” Yes, now I have found the confidence
to be proud about loving women, and yes, I feel more attracted to women than to
men. I’ve jokingly told friends that I’m definitely a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale.
That shouldn’t,
however, invalidate any feelings I might have towards men. And it shouldn’t
make me “less than” or “gross.” I shouldn’t have to feel ashamed of who I know
I’ve been, who I am at my core, since I was eleven years old.
I am not
confused.
I am not
promiscuous.
This is not a
phase, or a stepping stone.
And I refuse to
be ashamed any longer.
For more on this
topic, see:
http://www.afterellen.com/TV/2008/2thelwordbisexuality
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